#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Happiness is now a rare commodity. Anywhere you look, anywhere you go, you’ll feel the lonely and negative energy that people are emanating. More often than not, it can be from feelings of jealousy because they don’t have what their friends have. (i.e. relationships, career success, material abundance or the time and luxury to travel) Sometimes, it stems from the frustration that they haven’t achieved much. Other times, it’s just insecurity and anxiety teaming up together to make us question our worth, our achievements or the lack of it.

If you don’t want to succeed or achieve anything in life, just start worrying about the opinion of other people. This oughta cripple you from accomplishing anything ever.

But no, I won’t let you.

You’re here and you clicked on this article because you and your friend were just talking about something like this the other night. You probably caught yourself in your own BS and you want to put an end to that self-destructive habit. Either way, you stumbled on this post because this is the message from the Universe. If you want to be successful in reaching your current goal/goals, you need to stop giving way too many fucks.

I’m not going to stroke your ego and I’m not going to be politically correct. What I’m going to be is nothing but honest. I am going to be straight with you and you will be offended by the things that I say. Not that it is my intention, but because the truth is a tough pill to swallow. If you have the stomach for it, it can help you grow into a better version of yourself. I know because I’ve been in both sides of the coin. I will try to relate with you as much as possible. This is why I wrote 12 reasons why you should just stop giving a fuck.

1.) Damned if you do, damned if you don’t

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Sometimes I am in awe at how many people just open their mouths because they want to say something. Fools always want to say something without thinking. That’s how people usually are.

If you don’t do anything, they’ll comment on your laziness. If you do something about your ambition, they’ll criticize you for being delusional or too ambitious. Do not limit yourself from pursuing your dreams or from trying to conquer the impossible.

We can’t stop them from yakking then we might as well be damned because we had the initiative to execute. Just do what you have to do and tune them out. Let them talk. Your results will shut them up.

2.) Those who talk too much don’t actually know shit

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

The ones who constantly open their mouths to bring you down are the ones who do not know anything. Have you ever tried to listen to what they have to say? It’s usually just thoughtless and meaningless banter that does NOT make any sense. But you, you have passion, you have inspiration, you can adapt to change and you are driven. With the right support system, who knows what else you can achieve? Those who don’t have it won’t get it. They won’t even try to understand you or walk a mile in your shoes. They just want to tear down your confidence.

If you listen to them, you’re letting them win. You won’t do anything and that’s exactly what they want. Do not give them that satisfaction. Do not be intimidated or be affected by their mockery. It does not have weight and I doubt they even know what they’re talking about. Hold your head high and chin up. Do not engage. Just show them what you got.

3.) You’re going to be afraid of your uniqueness

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Sometimes, unique is kind of synonymous to being weird. We all know that when you’re different, you’re most likely going to be a social pariah. When I was a kid, I had a different definition of having fun and that is to read and write. I also liked jamming to old songs from the 80s than the most current ones. That earned me the weird kid stamp. The cool kids never hang out with the weird kid, right? That fact made me hate myself and I forced myself to change into someone I’m not. I was so afraid of my own weirdness that I tried so hard to repress it.

“No, I don’t want to be unique! I just want to be like everyone else.”

That is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever said in my life.

The thing about forcing to fit in is, it is not all that it is cracked up to be. It’s boring being surrounded by sheeps who are just clones of everyone else.

That’s when I flipped the table and said, “fuck this shit!”

I embraced my weirdness. I am now very proud that I’m weird. You don’t want to be friends with me? You don’t want to support me because I am different? Fuck that! If these cool kids won’t be inclusive of everyone regardless of the person’s uniqueness level, maybe they aren’t cool kids at all?

Normal is overrated.  Stop giving a fuck about fitting in. Embrace your wonderful, weird and unique self. If they can’t handle your weirdness, they sure as hell don’t deserve you at your best!

4.) They won’t suffer the consequences

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

You know what stops us from doing what we want to in life? From following our dreams? It’s us worrying what other people think or say about the things that we want to do.

If you let the opinion of others dictate what you should do with your life or how you should do stuff, you’ll end up doing nothing. People may have suggestions or advice for you, but the thing about that is – when you follow their suggestions, they don’t have to live with the consequences. You know who will though? YOU.

Just think of this, for example, you wanted to sell pancakes because you really make damn good pancakes. You make delicious pancakes with creative designs, too. But your family and friends say that it’s probably not going to pan out. It’s kind of a stupid idea and you shouldn’t do it. That hurts your feelings, but you believe them and you don’t do it. A few months later, a girl went viral because she’s making a lot of money selling delicious and creatively designed pancakes.

How would you feel?

Hypothetically, that could’ve been you if you didn’t listen to what other people had to say and what they thought about it. You’re going to regret that you decided not pursue it. You will suffer from feelings of frustration and anger that you didn’t take action. You’re going start blaming your unsupportive family and friends, but the truth is, it is your fault because you are the one who chose not to do shit about your idea anyways?

If that’s the case, why don’t we just follow our instincts and do what we’ve always wanted to do?

Do you want to become a Vlogger? Go for it! Do you want to start your own business? Go ahead! Do things because you are doing it for yourself and you feel confident about it. Do not do it because somebody else told you so. It’s okay to listen to advice, it’s okay entertain their opinion, it’s alright to consider their points, but you don’t have to base your decisions from it. You do you.

5.) They don’t really think about you.

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Have you ever felt stuck or confined in a small space and you can’t even move? That’s what happens when you overthink and ‘over worry‘ about what other people will say about you or the things you do. You’re not going to be comfortable being yourself, you won’t be able to fully express who you are nor can you spread your creative wings because you fear rejection and criticism.

Think about it like this, you are an extremely talented performer. You can sing, you can dance, you can possibly win a contest or find a record label to sign you. But you are not going to give it a go because you are too afraid of people not liking you or what you have to offer.

Here’s the thing… The times that you thought that people are thinking about you, or the times you thought they care about what happens to you – those times do not exist.

We are in a generation where everyone is so caught up in what is happening with their own lives, they can’t even handle it themselves. Case in point, they do not care about you or what you do because they’re too busy with their own issues. Remember those who aren’t close to you but are so eager to hear about the bad thing that happened to you? Yeah, it’s not out of concern. They just wanted the latest news so they can gossip about it.

Get over yourself. They’re not thinking about you as much. Bow your head down. Do what you gotta do. Don’t do it for them, do it for YOU.

6.) You are wasting time

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Dude, the time that you use worrying about what other people think about you is time wasted. You’re not being productive. Do you know why successful people achieve their goals? I’ll assume you said no.

They are successful because they use their time wisely.

Succesful people do not use their time to craft things that can impress other people. They do not use it to worry about what other people are thinking and saying about them. Successful people do not use their time to look at their competition because they’re too busy working towards their own goals. They’re either learning a new skill, focusing on their growth, making their businesses better, or working out to get their 6 pack abs. They don’t give a shit about what others think. They just do what they do and get results.

So, that being said, use your time wisely. Focus on yourself and your goals. Let the rewards that you reap make the noise.

7.) Those who don’t believe in you are irrelevant

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

While it is good to have someone in your life who will criticize you, be sure that this person actually cares about you. Someone who really knows you and just wants what’s best for you. Not somebody who just wants to crap all over your ideas because they’re afraid of the success that you can achieve.

Believe it or not, there will be people who will mask their envy as concern. They are afraid of who you can become. That’s why you have to surround yourself with people who believe in you, but won’t just tolerate you when your head’s way up in the clouds. They love you, but they’ll slap the shit out of you when you’re being too unrealistic.

Listen to yourself and follow your intuition.

Learn to tell the difference between the people who support you and those who just want you stay the way you are right now. An underachiever. A simpleton with a bleak future. If they cannot or will not believe in you, they don’t matter. But those who have your best interests at heart, they’re gold. Cherish them.

8.)  It fucks up your self-worth

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Why do you want to know what other people think or say about you? Why do you care so much? Are you expecting them to praise you or you expect them to criticize you? Are you seeking for their validation? What if they don’t give it to you? Giving way too many fucks about the opinion and approval of others fucks up your self-worth.

When they tell you that you aren’t good enough, that’ll crush your spirit and your will to go on. You’ll be stuck in a vicious cycle where you constantly seek for approval, but at the same time you also expect to be rejected. And instead of moving on, you feel drawn to please the person who rejected you until you gain at least a crumb of acceptance and validation.

Do not let anyone have that much power over you. You are great. You have things and talents that other people don’t have. If you don’t know what those are, get to know yourself and find out. Do not seek admiration elsewhere, build that love within yourself and master your strengths.

9.) They do not know you as well as you know yourself

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

They have met you, but do they really know who you are? Do they know your hidden talents? Do they know how smart you are? No? Then do not let them beat you down with their baseless judgments and assumptions. Bet on your strengths! Know your goals, plan it out, execute and believe that you can make shit happen.

10.) You cannot please everyone

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

No matter how good you are, someone is bound to dislike you or the things that you put out there. Whether it’s your art, your book, your music or your services, there will always be one person with different tastes who will not like it. That’s OKAY.

The only person you should please is YOURSELF. Are you confident about the things that you want to share with the world? Do you like it? Does it make you happy? Does it make you feel good about yourself? Yes? Then you win. 🙂

11.) It’s your life, not theirs.

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Whoever thinks they have a say in how you should live and run your life must be out of their minds. You are the architect of your own life and the writer of your own story. Design it the way you want it. Make each chapter beautiful, remove unnecessary toxic characters and write the story that you want. Whoever makes the mistake of making you believe they can control you should get the memo that your life is not a storefront so it is none of their business.

12. ) You are a force to be reckoned with

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

You might not know this now or you might not be there yet, but you will get there. Sometimes we are just surrounded by the wrong people who do not believe in us or who do not want us to succeed. This is what happens when we do not accept our true selves. We become magnets of people who exploit us. They kill the hope, light, dream and power within ourselves.  Stop giving fucks, embrace your authentic self and the fact that you are a force to be reckoned with.

Then, and only then, will you become a magnet of the right opportunities, tools and mentors who will guide you and nurture you until you achieve your goals.

Conclusion

#ToughLove: 12 Reasons WHY You Should Just STOP Giving A Fuck

Giving no fucks is an art to be mastered and a luxury that not everyone can afford. The moment that you realize not giving a fuck makes your life easier, everything will slowly start falling into place. There are a lot of good things that can happen once you stop giving way too many fucks. That is going to be on my next blog post.

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